The Mirror. And Unfriendings.

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Been unfriended down the FB years, about half a dozen times or so.

Looking back, its been the same story. 

Friends who wrote powerfully and passionately against the Other. 

Beautiful prose and beautiful poetry.

And then I make a quiet mention that we are also the villain. That our very lifestyles are the cause of the havoc we like to Protest against. That we need to change ourselves. That there is no evading the Mirror. And that it never lies.

Some lightening, some thunder, some #Unfriending !! Peace ... 

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Sanjay Maharishi
You 'make a quiet mention'. I have yet to see that
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- Aparna Krishnan
  oh. i assumed i was very understated ! i think we all have notions about ourselves.
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- Rupa Bajwa
  You are awful, relentless and border on the sanctimonious at times. It would be unbearable if there wasn't a whole lot of truth there.
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- Aparna Krishnan
  please remember i'm reining myself in !!
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- Aparna Krishnan
  When one lives in the midst of poor people, far superior to oneself and ones class, for decades, many many truths get seen. Hard truths, unflattering truths. I am tabling some of them.
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- Aparna Krishnan
  But I thought I was being understated and very poised and very cultured in my posts - omg !!
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- Rupa Bajwa
  You make people uncomfortable and guilty, which is great, but you do it full-time which gets tough for some who are, say, despite the privilege of being on FB, are battling with an illness in a family, a difficult marriage, a loss in the famiy, responsibilities - basically flawed human beings who cannot handle so much pressure and guilt. Not justifying anything, but it is the truth of human nature. Everyone longs for a soft word, a hug, respite sometimes (which takes NOTHING away from what you say).
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- Aparna Krishnan
  In the large centralized globalized world we are in, interconnections are gone. We scarely realize how mush we are a central cause of the crisis around us. I have been given the privilege ( or the cross) of seeing it closely, painfully. Sharing it. Each of us, despite our personal crises which is falling to all our lot, also need to face it, and make steps to collectively correct. In the name of the poor we are relentlessly finishing off. The burdens we are placeing on them is far heavier than what we are facing ma. Really.
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- Rupa Bajwa
  I understand, Aparna. I am only talking about the reasons for the usual responses you evoke. They are inherent in human nature.
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- Aparna Krishnan
  Mirror !! Yes, am not making a very 'quiet, gentle mention', even right here. Oh, well.
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- Rupa Bajwa
  Yes. I guess that one word will suffice!
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- Mark Johnston
  Seemed reasonably quiet and gentle to me However we can all read a sentence differently and apply meanings and feelings to it coloured by our own views and perspectives.
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- Aparna Krishnan
  Mark Johnston yes, i think stateing the facts as is cannot be termed as violent. That they reflect the violence in our lifestyles is what jars. The violence is in the lifestyle of the reader. Shooting the messenger does not help.
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- Prabha Ramanujan
  I concur with Rupa Bajwa. We may lead insensitive lives but we are born into these circumstances as much as the rural poor are in their's. Not all are capable of making radical decisions and life choices. As long as we are doing our share of being a good citizen, following rules, paying taxes and trying to look beyond our personal comforts, I think we are doing OK. I am on Fb to connect with diverse people and have some time pass. The authenticity of our lives need not always be relative. I have to make peace with my life, so when I do look beyond my circumstances, to doing something altruistic, I may be driven by a need to feel good about it. As long the outcome is positive, quibbling over technicalities is frankly a waste of time.
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- Mark Johnston
  I find that sometimes people find it far easier to look for offence rather than to try to look in the mirror and so miss the self criticism included in our statements.
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- Aparna Krishnan
  Mark Johnston yes, i think so.
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- Rupa Bajwa
  Aparna Krishnan , 'Mirror', of course. Very few can handle a mirror.
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- Rupa Bajwa
  Mark Johnston , seems gentle and reasonable to me too. I am attempting (and perhaps failing) to express why some decent peple too might find it difficult to handle. Am trying to go into its psychological aspect. (though in practice, I think some people could at least TRY to grow a spine).
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Some people are upset that I 'try to make them feel guilty'. I do not understand. We are guilty, period. Very guilty.
The climate change and the drought that is killing the people of my state did not come from nowhere. Every AC, every fridge, every car in our homes has contributed to this. Payback time, friends.
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Arnab Karfa
It's because those who refuse to feel guilty are unable to change, change is hard maybe harder than murder....
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Aparna Krishnan
Yes, in the times we live in, murder can be done long distance, in sterile ways. We are all caught up in that reality. But only some of us seem to have the courage to face it.
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Aparna Krishnan
the urbans have drained the blood out of villages. now they need to return the spoils for us to be able to build back. that is a claim we need to make.

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