I oppose cakes and candle blowings, because what we do is being aped in villages. Every act and non-act has implications and repurcussions, and we are accountable.
2. Now learning from city based relatives (and I suspect TV serials), there are 'cakes' for some birthdays. A few village parents manage to afford this. Other children are learning what 'deprived' means. There are the 'haves' and 'have nots' among children - which was never the case in a village community.
The implications of every modern notion is vaster than we can guess even.